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As a teenager and young college student, my life was very much consumed with
people giving me advice about relationships. I didn’t want to be focused on finding a
Christian guy to ‘pursue me’, but I was sent a message that I should be. The
more women told me, “God will bring you a man if that’s your desire” the harder
it was to set my mind on things
above, not on earthly things.
Waiting on a man gives our faith a very “me-centered” focus. All of a sudden it’s about God providing ME with a relationship…God
providing ME with a happily ever after. And while He is fully capable of
providing both of these things, it is not the picture of submission to Him we
see in Scripture, nor is it the goal of our faith. The pressures of an ideal
relationship and potential marriage cause girls to make lists of qualities they
want in a guy (I’ve been guilty of this). Because apparently the God who
created us, who is “intimately acquainted with all we do” (Psalm 139:3), needs
us to give Him a little reminder sometimes of what we’re attracted to. And as
if that isn’t bad enough, girls pray over their lists,…instead of spending time
praying for those who don’t know their Savior. I could be mis-interpreting Christian
books I’ve read, but I’m pretty sure one of them encouraged me to do
this. When did Christianity become about ME?
Our purpose is all about HIM.
Allow Him to use you in whatever way you can be the most fruitful in your
fleeting time here on earth. Trust me (no, trust Him), He knows the desires of
your heart. But our utmost desire should be to serve Him, not for Him to serve
us. We were created to glorify God, make much of His name, and enjoy a personal
relationship with Him. Our calling given in Scripture is to GO and make
disciples. Over and over we’re told to share the love that we’ve received with
those who don’t know of the hope we profess. We’re also told that God will
equip us with all we need to accomplish His purpose here on earth. Yet a
message is being sent to young women and youth saying, “don’t WORRY girls…God
will show you who your husband is going to be. Wait on God for him.” And yes,
of course we are called to wait on the Lord, but specifically waiting for a GUY
is different. If we trust in the Lord and have full assurance in His ability to
provide, then we should GO and make disciples, knowing that if we will be the
most fruitful in a relationship leading to marriage then He will make that
clear. And if we are to be single our whole lives because we can accomplish His
purpose more effectively that way, then that is what we are to do.
Waiting on the Lord does not
mean waiting for Him to provide us with OUR desires. It means being faithful to
our calling in Scripture and allowing Him to provide the rest. Christian girls
need to hear a new message. Our God is so much bigger than the little genie we
like to make Him sometimes. We like to think of Him as someone we can go to
when we need a favor or need assurance that someday __ will happen. This is so
far from our purpose.
Be obedient to His purpose for
your life, and He will equip you with all you need in doing so. He wants us to lead
fulfilled lives. He wants what’s best for us…and that’s HIM. The
most loving thing He will do is move us to a place where we cherish Him more
than anything else. So why are we still chasing
worldly things? Sometimes our desires reflect a worship of the created over the
creator. We cannot seek our highest
satisfaction in anything of this world. It’s destructive to the human soul
to take a created thing and make it an ultimate thing. I think a better line
than “do you
trust God with the pen of your love story?” would be “do you trust God
with the pen of your life? Will you be completely fulfilled in your love
relationship with HIM and allow Him to decide what comes next?”
Matthew 6:31-33 “So do not
worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we
wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father
knows that you need them. But SEEK FIRST HIS KINGDOM and his righteousness, and
all these things will be given to you as well.”
Lord I pray that you would be
our utmost desire. More of You, a walk with You daily, a higher satisfaction in
You...
We don't delight ourselves in
the Lord in order to get something else, just like we don't seek first the
kingdom to then gain something in return. We have an eternal hope and joy, so
why settle for a temporary one?
As a wife I’m held to the same
call I was before: glorify God and make much of His name. I have been given a
partner in this journey, but my aim and ultimate goal remains the same. I realize
my ultimate satisfaction can be found in Christ alone. As a wife, I finally see
the importance of girls pursuing Christ in their singleness, so that they can
be intimately acquainted with Him in their marriages as well. Marriage is the
most amazing thing I’ve ever known because I get to see my husband how he is behind closed
doors when no one is watching. I see him cry over lost people, find him
buried in our closet praying, and hear him asking God everyday to make him into
a more Godly man. I see his PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP with Jesus and I want it. I
want to know God more because of how Austin knows Him. We must know how to
individually pursue Jesus now, so that we’re still pursuing Him in our future.
SEEK FIRST HIS KINGDOM and his
righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.









